What to do when your dating
Along with avoiding talking about yourself, don’t bring an air of gloom, doom, or super-seriousness to the conversation when you do talk to the guy about it. “Don’t have the conversation in the bedroom,” says Morse. Another tip is to do it when you’re in the car or walking the dog—it’s a sensitive topic, so giving them the option not to make eye contact can be a big relief and make the conversation go smoother.” Your tone and vibe matters more than what you actually say, but your message should be something along the lines of, “What happened last night was no big deal!
I’ve heard a lot of guys struggle with this, so maybe it’s worth having a doctor check it out.” In young men, odds are the problem has psychological roots, says sex therapist Laurie Watson, LMFT, host of the podcast FOREPLAY: Radio Sex Therapy.
To be clear: I’m talking about being with a guy who struggles with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation.
(There are plenty of other ways our bodies can malfunction in bed—and we women face our own challenges—but here, we’re focusing on the men.) Erectile dysfunction, or the inability to get or keep an erection, affects millions of men in the U. But that doesn’t mean millennial men don’t experience it: According to the University of Wisconsin Madison’s School of Medicine and Public Health, mild or moderate ED affects 10 percent of men per decade of life—meaning 20 percent of men in their 20s, 30 percent of men in the 30s, and so on, though we’ll assume with a drop-off at some point.
Though it might be tempting to cave to insecurities the minute something goes wrong—especially when it’s ED—try hard not to turn the focus onto yourself, says sexologist Emily Morse, Ph. “This doesn’t mean he’s not sexually attracted to you,” she says.
“Men put so much stock in their penises working properly because of our culture’s idea of masculinity.
These are people who decide quickly if they want to see the person again based solely on whether they want a relationship with them or not.
You know it and he knows it, but the question of how to it remains.
Below, five smart suggestions from top sex therapists about where to start.
There is no in between and if the other person wants to take it further where they don’t, then the person is friend-zoned.
Any date is focused on interacting with the other person to assess them.